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When he pulls away, what emotions - T


When you see your man pulling away first off give him some space and resist the temptation to flooding with text messages calls or the dreaded poppin as his distance might have nothing to do with you at allif he continues to be distant you want to communicate your concern and ask him if everything is okay be specific and let him know what you sense is different you might say i've missed seeing you and I'm missing the connection

We've had what's happening over there in your worldthe tough part giving him the freedom in this space to share with you what's really so for him even if what he shares with you is not what you want to hear three things need to be in place in order for a man to really show up for you as a partner he needs to have the hots for you romantically he needs to feel that you and the complexities of your life fit in well with his that your worlds mesh well togethertiming needs to be right for him for developing and sustaining a long-term partnership if he's not fully healed from a password or if he needs to be unattached unencumbered for a while longerwe need you relax and give him the space to experience life as a solo man for a while toughest that is to hear most importantly be warm kind compassionate and supportive even 

If you do find that he needs to pull awayas if the first two elements are in place for him and it's just timing that's off then you want to be the one who can and will come back to and he's ready when a man pulls away you might panic and think what did I do what did I say and double guess everything about yourself you may not have done anything he may just be establishing his sense of self within the relationship rather than pulling out he may be checking to see that he's not pressured by you and is able to take healthy space or maybe he has his own issues relating to being controlledand wants to figure out if he can get enough space to manage this fear within your relationship perhaps however he's having doubts about this match working for him what is true in all cases is that his behaviour is about him and not about you

So if you are in any way disturbed by it ask yourself what message about me am I reading into his behavior what is the message about me that is making me feel this way your own past experiences and the way that you have interpreted themleft wandering recordings inside of you that say things like you don't deserve to be loved your not want able your disk are double or you're not worth sticking around for these old recorded messages are the reason for your distress now no matter how remote that may seemthey are the reason you end up doing things you regret like expressing anger at him putting a demand on him or calling him leaving several messages the key here is to help the parts of your mind that are stuck reacting to old recorded wounding messages consider that this is the only authentic reason to enter a love relationship in the first placeif not we are seeking a mutual agreement to sucker then humorously someone into meeting our emotional needs with the agreement to be there secor as well as if that erases both people self deathsor brings us in eternal high of being in love no one on either end can keep this up forever this type of arrangement only causes both partners to feel obligated oppressed angry and disappointed enemy and makes a relationship fail there are numerous ways to heal one of my favorites for self-help is talking to your inner child and informing herfor example the view the adult self want her and love her 

And want to be with her if this doesn't feel natural are do able working with the therapist will help some therapies such as d n m s actually erase the message so that no more disturbing reactions may occur the greatest value in love relationships is the mirror that they provide for you to see yourselfso that you can use that information to become home and as you do so you actually become the person you are seeking then just like bees to pollen everyone is drawn to you in this light everything he does that distresses you becomes a gift back to youfor our number one recommendation to make any man love you click the link below thanks for watching until next time

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